Some people find you in peace & leave you in pieces

People are all about human beings, social creatures by nature. Instinctively, we don’t like feeling alone, and our bodies and brains actually function better when we are surrounded by others. We are basically wired to be social. Social connections and friendships are vital to our health and well-being. Outside of our family units, when we have friends we can lean on, laugh with, cry with, and talk to, we are nourishing ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. We need that connectivity not only to survive, but to thrive. In doing so some people become important in our life, for their happiness we forget our happiness. Sometime you give importance to people and they think that you are always free, but they don’t understand you make yourself.

What is about people that can leave you in pieces or lead you to peace?

More than other people we often harm ourselves. With self-inflicted wounds we remain in pain finding someone else to blame. Peace of mind means just what it sounds like: a state in which your brain is calm, at ease, and untroubled by worry. Now when you decide ‘to give people a piece of your mind’ you are angrily scolding someone or being bluntly critical so that your unhappiness with whatever they did is abundantly clear. This ‘Damn it’ culture of showing anger and annoyance is becoming a way of life. While we do what we do when we are irritated or critical, there is a better way instead of giving a piece of mind, ‘retaining your peace of mind’ by letting go your anger. The word damn is impolite and even considered profane since we invoke damnation upon something or someone. More than what you want to do with the other, your own body feels the brunt. Many think that they need to swear to use vulgar words to get their point across. It is only adding to one’s sins and by yelling or raising voice you may satisfy your ego that you are control of the situation and dominating upon the person. You surely do not like when anger is directed at you. Then what makes you think it is a solution to direct anger at others. Exercise yourself to raise your words rather than raising your voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder.

People who are very cautious and do not let anyone destroy their inner peace are the ones who know to bring together, others broken pieces and lead them to their peace. Heard comments he/she is peace loving, well they are kind of people who try to avoid quarrel or fighting and quite law abiding. They are those to end an argument and stop feeling angry. They live selflessly, treat others with respect. It is rather challenging to make another person think, feel, or behave in a certain way. All you can control is your response to people and this helps treat others better. Say no when you need to, don’t be afraid to walk away, do not take things personally, take responsibility in keeping calm in exchange of the peace you will enjoy.

Count yourself special when people have something of value to share with you, as their impact will continue to have significant effect in your life long after they have departed.