Pain

Unpleasant physical sensation caused by illness or injury is defined as pain. It is also a fact that often we pleasantly take pains to do things for those we feel for. So why Pain is misunderstood, feared, disappointing and hard to overcome for many?

The Pain being addressed in this post is about the psychogenic pain where the mind causes pain without a physical source. This occurs when your pain is related to underlying psychological, emotional, or behavioral factors. We all master the art to self-inflict pain as we are mindful with anger, hatred, and jealousy resulting in anxiety, depression and other mental disorders. The most painful kind of love is called grief, which happens when the object of a person's love is taken away with no hope for return or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received. There is also pain that originates from others hurtful words.

Most minds have a confession to make, “Dear Self, sorry for always breaking you for others.” Let me introduce you to 'emotional masochists' people who tend to feel most comfortable in painful relationships. These people think it is because they don't deserve any better hence pain is them. It is important to realize a person's ability to engage functional and occupational activities is severely impaired being in a state of mental illness. Approximately 280 million people in the world have depression, among them 5.7% with age 60 and above are in depression. What happened to their wisdom while ageing and why they have not been able to conquer their mind? What good is worldly learning’s if knowing and managing self is not learnt? What use is the worldly wealth earned when the Creator’s wealth of life is under abuse with self-inflicted pain?

Consider pain as an alarm that requires your attention and wisdom to overcome it. The wise often said pain leaves once it has finished teaching you. Pain during life is unavoidable but pain we create avoiding pain, is avoidable by managing our mind well. A common thing most manage badly is forgiving people, self or even God. If you store hatred within you, pain is complimentary. (Do read an earlier post “Not Knowing Forgiveness, Why Many Can’t Forgive”). Time alone doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to Let Go.

The thing about pain is it demands to be felt. Imagine if cutting of hair involved pain people would have left it to grow naturally. You have to listen to the messengers in pain as they elevate you, make you stronger and managing it better only leads to your growth. Some suffer not being connected to the Creator, some are in pain when their beloved Lord is forgotten even for a breath. There is a well-known quote by Guru Nanak Devji when referring to pain as medicine…. “Dukh Daaru Sukh Rog Bhayaa, ja Sukh Taam na hoi.” “Suffering is the medicine and pleasure the disease because where there is pleasure, there is no desire for God.

To deal with our wounds better meet the God within you for miracles that come in the form of His Grace and Blessings, manifesting our thoughts and actions in dealing with Pain better especially without suffering. If God has brought you to it he will take you through it, but ensure to reach out to Him always. He does not mind your random knocks but you surely can behave more responsibly.

Happy or sad, joy or sorrow, in comfort or pain …

Remember Nirankar / Almighty God at all times.