Nirnay (Judgmental)

Nirnay is a Hindi word meaning Judgmental.

People over time do realize behind most failings, missteps & stumbles is the I factor. In recent times another trending quality of the I prominence is nirnay (being judgmental). Why does one take such liberties which lead to quick criticism of a lot of people, to form opinions disapproving someone or something, rushing to judge without reason and being harsh or critical? I am sure this trait comes in the way of fixing problem, hurt other people’s feelings when you don’t need or mean to, but they want to do it all the time.

I understand when you give a nirnay you do not define others, you define yourself. This learning put me to analyze if any strain of this trait is being exercised by me. I am sure each reader realises the consequences of being judgmental. As humans, we cultivate strong opinions. We should know right from wrong and feel strong and powerful enough to fight for the right when we see wrong. However the liberty from making judgements and getting judgmental is destructive for our own mental health and self-esteem. The consequences of irresponsible nirnay is distancing close relationship, breaking regions & dividing communities. Patriotism now seems a subject of competitiveness.

It seems many use nirnay as a cover meant to protect the self from an acute sense of social anxiety around others. One tends to be overly critical, they show no respect for the person they criticize, they are power driven, they justify what they say because they believe it is the truth based on their own idiosyncratic values or tastes ultimately making the other person feel problematically fall off. Sadly in today’s world, bullying on blog posts or mean tweets are more normal than compliments or kindness. Why be judgmental especially on social media giving comments that give a negative opinion about topics of which the entire truth is not known. Equally irresponsible is to forward their stink giving them more presence and polluting others mind.

We need to teach our children and ourselves to focus more on compassion than on nirnay. We need to understand others perspective, practice kindness more than we practice nirnay. Let's recognize the difference between normal opinions and negative judgments, and then cultivate a less judgmental mind set.

Connect with the almighty as his judgements about you is more important!