Pehchan Kaun? Selfish

A man wrapped up in him, makes a very small bundle.

Most people are not aware of their selfish blind spots. They assume they’re nice people who care about their own happiness more than anything and carelessly walk over people. Selfishness is the greatest curse of the human race, strangely for many it keeps them blind through life. Selfish is defined as being concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself: seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.

Many elements in our society encourage developing the trait of selfishness. Begins with the young mind in school and then in higher education, followed with personality trainers, marketing pundits, heads of sales; all prioritize the mind to be one over others. Their Gyan has often been misconstrued to be followed as seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others resulting many having the selfishness traits. Our theory of human development is based on a model that you’re either selfish or you’re community oriented. The truth is that you need to be both. It’s not an either-or.

Pehchan Kaun selfish…. Freedom starts with truth, thus do not deny self from knowing which selfish traits are part of you while seeing it in others. The mantras of Me, Mine and I want, are consistently putting one’s goals ahead of others and being ruthless to happiness. The ruthlessness in seeking happiness is actually preventing oneself in achieving that happiness. There is little or no gain to oneself, but surely cause ripples in hurting people and not surprising losing some. A selfish person keeps expecting from others, enslaved to emotions ends up being lonely person. Some people are notoriously bad listeners, yet others interrupting people thinking what they say is so important and that what others have to say is so unimportant. Selfishness often squelches the ability to simply enjoy things, because it finds something wrong with everything. Many in our public life do not disagree of their opponents on some things they disagree to everything. Selfishness rejects criticism something necessary for its improvement. Some early some later do tend to realize one day the impact of selfishness needs to be reduced. A basic common key is with KINDNESS. An article from a working nurse stated she was witness to many deaths in hospitals. Some of these people died peacefully while others were fearful and overwhelmed. If she had to pick one characteristic for those who died peacefully, it would be their kind-heartedness. This seemed to make them fearless – even those who were in a lot of pain. She recalled one beautiful old lady who right up to her last minute was focused on the well-being of her friends and family.

Within your own conscious mind, you may say anything, but without the Guru, selfishness and conceit are not eradicated. SGGS65

Give up your selfishness, and you shall find peace; like water mingling with water, you shall merge in absorption. SGGS22