The Wrong with Wrongs

You are wrong when you are not correct or true, mistaken, not accurate, invalid, off target, misleading, illogical. You are wrong being immoral, unlawful, law-breaking, corrupt, unethical, wicked, evil, sinful, condemnable, crooked, and shady. You can be wrong doing things in an unsuitable, undesirable manner, direction or even act unjustly or dishonestly.

So let’s accept we all do wrong every day and may be many times a day. Surely there are times we do wrong things we would prefer not to do unintentionally and unknowingly. There are times one is distracted, tired, while multi-tasking and mishandling a situation. Most common is when our actions lack planning or foresight and we do not realise considering the importance of consequences. Between a husband and wife there is clarity ‘You can’t be wrong by doing the right and you can’t be right doing the wrong’. However between two lawyer’s arguments can surely be wrong doing the right and being right by doing the wrong.

We do wrongs with our relations, strangers, colleagues, neighbors, service providers or may be just about with everybody. Doing wrong sometimes is realized immediately, then there is also a delayed reaction and often it is on reflection or a feedback as one is told to know the wrong is done. To err is human but no school, institution teaches how to accept, manage and correct the wrong well outside a judicial preview. Legally there are guide lines to reflect, judge and punish the wrong with some clarity, but outside the Legal courts it is only chaotic.

A fundamental concern about the Wrong with Wrongs is when you do a wrong you plead a compromise, if the other has done you demand justice with stringent penalization. People are willing to admit they are not always right, but I am never wrong is what they wrongly believe. A self-righteous person thinks they can do no wrong, and goes about with a "holier-than-thou" attitude, judging and scrutinizing everyone else.

Others accept you to correct them for their wrongs but it is not fair correcting them when you are wrong. ‘WHY did you wrong’? The person asking WHY in some cases uses the past to fuel guilt with the wrong doer, years after the wrong done. It is only because they have difficulty to forgive.

The human intelligence seems to have lost it. It is constantly thinking that something is wrong with other. Be it one’s carrier, business or institutions the competition norms with many are not healthy anymore. Their marketing tools today compromises on fairness, ethics, morals, research and planning and is being replaced in fault finding and discussing others Wrong. Political success seems to be measured by the quantum of verbal jabs of Wrongs you speak of the opponent. Their hearsay masala is a feed for the media to inflate their TRP ratings using and abusing our eyeballs.

To spiritually benefit from our realized wrong doings we need a new attitude towards them. Wrongs cannot be overcome by becoming upset, fretful, and angry about it, or if it is a serious wrong become deeply burdened and even depressed. To progress, we need to cope with the emotional reaction to the action and move on to the learning stage. While accepting being wrong, staying wrong is not acceptable.

We must never regret being a good person for the wrong people. Tough restrains, corrections and penalization can be exercised for their serious wrongs, keeping in mind the souls have drifted away from the main stream. For simple wrongs, do initiate corrections some kindness for a second chance as we seek for ourselves from our Lord.