The 'You' In Others

 The birth of ‘you’ is given by others. It is others who give ‘you’ a name. For every ‘you’ others play a vital role- providing support, shaping personal development, and offering new perspectives through various relationships like family, friends, and mentors.

The connections others form with a ‘you’ are essential for psychological well-being, happiness and overall survival. They serve as sources of guidance, motivation, and emotional comfort through triumphs and struggles alike. Yet this connect with others is not necessarily always kind. It can bring discomfort or leave long term scars. At times others are not any easy guidance to get along with - their influence can leave emotions strained for years to come.

Income, earnings, profits for a ‘you’ come from the spend of others. The lifelong claims by ‘you’ of my possessions, my belongings – are after death, taken and shared by others. In complex lives even while living, others under arbitration may seize opportunities to claim them. The first and last bath for the ‘you’ is given by others. The funeral for ‘you’ is arranged by others and the final prayers will be said by others. Final rites or the grave to be dug – again by others. Even the tears that fall come from others. It seems the ‘you’ has only a small lead role in many things.

Scriptures across religions remind us; “one’s prime purpose in life is to help others”. Loving and serving others is central to every faith. Loving others can free a ‘you’ from desires and keep one be mindful of duty and spiritual growth. There are teachings that say ‘you’ must treat others justly, avoiding arrogance that breeds corruption or harm. Every faith encourages to treat others with kindness, forgiveness and humility. Others are placed in our lives for specific reasons and helping them is a way to honor God. 

We must also understand that our relationships with others should be rooted in detachment from the fruits of our actions, performing our duties without attachment to outcomes.

The truth begins to fade when the ‘you’ starts fighting others, wasting energy to become richer and more powerful than others. Today the ‘you’ is too often busy minding other people’s business. – competing in pride and hatred – when all that’s needed is to value others, for that reflects the true worth of ‘you’.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to understand ourselves. Learning through others is a beautiful act of self-reflection. How you make others feel says a lot about the ‘you’. A brave ‘you’ acknowledges the strength of others.

The importance of "you" and "others" lies in the mutual benefits of relationships, for well-being, growth, and survival. What you do for yourself dies with you when you leave the world; what you do for others’ lives on forever.

Every generation feels the need to differentiate itself from the previous. Today’s generation, in its overdependence on technology, often loses resilience on traditional values. The ‘you’ of today is failing - and a failed ‘you’ becomes the ‘other’ who makes a larger mess in society. For many, it is less important to improve personal skills than to seek attention through endless ways.

I love mankind; its others I can’t stand….  This ‘you’ has a lot to change..